FM Friday's: Coons, Goons and Crazies !!!

Ok the tile should be self explanatory; but just in case its not here we go.


Coons



Back in the day the word Coon was used as a derogatory term to describe a lazy, uneducated, and worthless person in society. Most of them where portrayed as Black people through Blackface or by actual black actors Such as Amos and Andy, Uncle Tom, Mammy Etc. Well unfortunately coonatry is still alive and well today. There are many, many entertainers as well as common folks who continue to perpetrate the stereotypes of coonatry. (Myself included) I’m from the old school, you know the days of Public Enemy, KRS-1, Paris, Xclan etc. So the first time I saw the Flavor of love show onVH1 I was devastated, confused and saddened to see Flavor Flav (out of all people) wearing gold fronts while eating fried chicken and watermelon.

My question was WHY??? Now we know money was the main reason, but talk about selling your soul to you know who or doing something strange for some change. And I’m not even going to get into these rappers. So whether you’re going dumb/stupid or riding till you dying, you’re showing the world that this is what black people do in the USA. TIME TO STOP THE COONATRY-TIME TO STOP THE MADNESS.


Goons


Well now that thug life is pretty much played out they had come up with something that would keep us fussing and fighting with one another instead of focusing on our wealth and health. So out came GOONS. You know?? Goons, everybody has some goons nowadays. (Rappers, entertainers, Club owners) Notice if you take the C out of Coon and replace it with the G from gangster you get a REAL GOON. Once again a stereotype that many black men try their best to live out today. (On each other of course) I was listening to a so-called Goon on the internet the other day and he had the nerve to say that the US constitution gave him the right to be a Crip gang member and that they had the right to assemble and if taken to jail for this that he would be a POLITICAL PRISONER. Political prisoner??? (WTF). Really, this must come from the same vein of  thought that everything’s a damn movement nowadays. Most people toady wouldn’t know a movement if it was moving up and down in front of their face. STOP CALLING EVERY AND ANYTHING A MOVEMENT. And as far as being a political prisoner NEGRO PLEASE!!! Prison was made for you and all the fools like you get over it and get a real life. (Minus bubba)


Crazies


This Fm-Friday was just going to be about Coon, Goons and the destruction that they cause; however the lady of the blog (Ashley) wanted me to included Crazies so here we go. Last week here in Sacramento, Ca we had this CRAZY fool burn down our local mall. He went inside a Game stop and ordered everyone to leave claiming he had a bomb, gun, knife and bad breath. Well when everyone left he set the Game stop on fire. The fire dept. let the fire burn stating that the back pack could have had a bomb inside and that their safety was paramount. My question is that why be a fire fighter if you’re really that concerned with your safety? I mean isn’t this one of the most dangerous jobs in America? If there were 10 bank robbers in a bank with AK 47s would the police say “Hey let them go, too dangerous for me” I doubt it!! Plus if you seen this cat you would known that he can’t afford to pay attention, let alone afford a bomb or bomb making materials. So now we have a mall of all things burned to the ground, people out of work, and one crazy man going away for a long long time. But I can’t stop thinking of who was crazier the guy who started the fire or the fire dept. Let me know what you think???

FM Ram
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I Don't Trust It!

A birth control gel that is applied to the skin could offer woman an alternative to the Pill, say experts presenting latest trial data. Used once daily, it delivers hormones to prevent a pregnancy in the same way as oral contraceptives do. Early studies show the gel is effective and well tolerated, with none of the typical side effects associated with the Pill, like weight gain and acne. The Nestorone gel is being developed with drug firm Antares Pharma.

Researchers told the American Society for Reproductive Medicine how they hope to bring the product to market if clinical trial results continue to be positive. The gel can be applied to the abdomen, thighs, arms or shoulders and is quickly absorbed, with no residue. Experts say it is also suitable for women who are breastfeeding, unlike the combined Pill which can interfere with milk supply.

Dr Ruth Merkatz from the not-for-profit Population Council research centre in New York led the latest study, which involved 18 women in their 20s to 30s. Over the course of seven months, none of the women using the treatment fell pregnant. Hormone studies showed the gel suppressed the production of eggs by the ovary. The research found the optimum dose of the gel was 3mg a day.
"It's in early stage development but if we move on, we will obviously test it in many, many more women." The researchers say it could offer an alternative to the Pill, which is used by over 3m women in the UK alone. Natika Halil, director of information at the Family Planning Association, said: "Any contraceptive system that increases the choice of methods available to women and helps to prevent unwanted pregnancies is welcome.
"This product won't suit everyone and will only be for women comfortable (with) putting it on their skin and having their contraceptive cover that way."

Source: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-11619044


Question: Can I rub it on my BF in hopes that the exposure it has on him will rub off on me or be so potent that when his sperm meets my egg it'll either die or my egg won't become fertilized? Why do I have to use it? When are there going to be some creams, lotions, patches, pills, gum or whatever for men to take to control birth?


I don't trust it! I know many women who have gotten pregnant using the pill, patch and shot. Now, there is a gel/lotion you rub on. Man, HELL NO! The other methods are risky enough.

How Not to Marry the Wrong Guy

Cosmo gives 6 easy ways to make sure ladies are chosing the right men for the right reasons. I like this article and thought that I would share with you all.



1. Don't Just Dismiss His Past


Is there a chapter of your boyfriend's history that bothers you because it so doesn't sound like the guy you know? Then you need to decide if your relationship could survive a repeat, because odds are good that old habits will return.

"The best predictor of his future behavior is his past behavior," says Orbuch. If his relationship history is a sordid tale of flings and bitter exes, it's tempting to think that you're the one woman fabulous enough to reform him.

2. Own Up to What You Need


So you love that your guy is a foodie or a stylish dresser. That's all great, as long as you're not so dazzled by those qualities that you overlook the fact that he's lacking more important ones.

"I tell my clients to draw a big circle with a smaller one inside it and then fill the inner circle with four or five qualities they absolutely need a husband to have, like sharing their views of religion, family, or money," says Lombardo. "Then they fill the larger circle with nice-to-haves. You should look for a partner who has all the inner-circle qualities and a few of the outer ones, not the other way around."

3. Take Off Your Future-Goggles and See Him as Is


Say he's an MBA student with big plans to become a CEO. Will you feel just as lucky to have him if student-loan bills are the only concrete result of that degree? "Remember that you're marrying the guy he is now, not the man he might be one day," says couples therapist Jennifer Gauvain, coauthor of How Not to Marry the Wrong Guy. "It's great to be attracted to his passion, because that will stay consistent, but don't get attached to a certain potential career or financial outcome."

You need to be okay with the possibility that the rest of the world won't be as convinced of his talents as you are. "This is key because frustration with the difference between what you expected and the reality you got is one of the leading sources of marriage unhappiness over time," says Orbuch.

4. Beware His Family Dynamics


Depending on how close he is to his family, it's not just him you're marrying. And while you might be able to ignore them now, his family will play a big role in your life once you're hitched. Remember that these people will be not be just at your wedding but also at roughly half your future holidays, at the hospital when your children are born, and quite possibly on your sofa for extended visits.

5.If There's No Spark, Forget It


With all this talk of shared values, don't forget this primal truth: There needs to be a sizzle. "In such uncertain economic times, it's easy for women to tell themselves that stability is more important than attraction, but you need chemistry for a relationship to work," says Gauvain.

Of course, if you've been together for years, you're not necessarily pinning each other down the minute you get in the door. But the urge to rip off each other's clothes should still strike on occasion. "Being successfully married means being more than best friends," says Lombardo. "Great sex won't make problems go away, but it can really cushion your relationship during the inevitable tough times."

6. Tear Up Your Bridal Time Line


"If you nudge her, a woman will often admit that there's a magic age she thinks she should be married by," says Gauvain. Whether your number is based on beating your biological clock or more random factors, like how old your sister was when she got hitched, it can hold power over you and put you at a high risk of marrying the wrong guy as that birthday draws close.

"When women feel they're falling behind on their bridal time line, they are more likely to settle for Mr. Almost Right," says Gauvain. "They're scared of having wasted precious time, so they stick with guys they normally wouldn't." To make sure that such fears aren't driving your decision, ask yourself if you would still be with him if you were younger. If your answer isn't a strong "Hell, yes!" then recognize your urge to put a ring on it for what it is: fear of falling behind on your time line and being alone.

If a desire to have kids is freaking you out, know that the traditional marriage sequence has gone the way of the VCR. Now, few people bat an eye if you get knocked up by a BF or have a baby solo. "Women should trust that kids will happen for them one way or another, and marrying the wrong guy isn't the best way to get there," says Gauvain.
Source:http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/dating-advice/how-not-to-marry-the-wrong-guy


Now, I usually don't fool around with Cosmo because they're usually on some freaky nasty stuff, but they are dead on this time. Lately, I've been guilty of #6 the bridal timeline. My magic number, since I was a child, has been 25 years old. And dammit, I'm that old now and there is still no prospect. So lately my magic number has become right now, LOL. I've also imagined my father walking me down the aisle and he passed away. So now, I'm banking on my papa and he's getting old.God forbid, something happens to him. My timeline is falling apart. But, I think I feel a little bit better about the craziness since I have identified my problem.

Are any of you guilty of the any of these or am I in the boat all by myself?

Black Men-Fried Foods, Sex & Violence

Ok I know your wondering what does Black men fried foods sex and violence have to do with the price of cheese? Well many of us black men are dying from Fried Foods (pork chops, fried chicken, French fries, bacon etc) Sex-(going swimming with no wetsuit) and Violence (genocide-the black on black routine killings in our community) My biggest question is WHY??? Now we all know that I have my own theories on this subjects but I would love to hear from you. However here are a few of mine. (You knew this was coming right??)



Fried Foods

I watched the movie Soul food the other weekend and I could really identify with Big momma. Church on Sunday and plenty of fried foods after church, either at the church itself (dinner plates) or at Big momma’s house afterwards. Well I came to really love fried foods regardless that a lot of my family suffered from high blood pressure, diabetes, weight problems etc. You couldn’t get this black man to stop killing himself slowly with food. Well I went the Dr office last year and guess what? I’m pre-diabetic. Well no need to worry though cause I’ve been working out and eating right ever since. I realized that many companies were targeting my fat black ass. Who you wonder?? Mickey D’s, KFC’s, Burger King and oh yes even round table pizza. So my thought is that I would rather live!! Hell there are too many things already out there to kill a black man and I wasn't going to let food be one of them.



Sex

Ah yeah here we go S-E-X gotta have it RiGhT?? Well it seems that many people are sleeping around nowadays unprotected. Well I’m just saying (especially to my young brothers) that it is proven that if you keep sleeping around you will one day get something that you can not get rid of. A BABIES MOMMA!!! Yeah thats right a babies momma, Hell Aids- babies momma whats the difference they both gonna kill you. With the babies momma you just going to be broke when you die. lol



Violence

Violence, this is my favorite love to hate topic. You see from 2008-2009 I had lost 3 cousins and 1 nephew, all killed by gun violence in the Bay Area. I had one more cousin shot in that time period but he survived. I was thinking to myself one day on how we could possibly curb this wave of violence that’s paralyzing many of our communities. Cause one things for sure if your from Sacramento Ca or Queens Ny theres some black on black crime going down. Why is this??

Yeah, yeah I know ni66a did this, ni66a said that, NI66A PLEASE!!!! It’s genocide of your own kind!!! It’s like look in the mirror and kill yourself, It’s like, like some Jim Jones drink the kool aid kill your brother type shit. DAMN I HATE THIS SHIT!! But then I digress, Let me know how you REALLY feel.




Fm-Ram

Fm-Ram Friday’s

FmRam-FM Friday's

Every Friday my friend who goes by the pseudonym, FmRam (p.s. FM stands for Funk Master), will be a guest writer for My Crazy Life. Enjoy and post comments to let us know what you think.



The Hip Hop Industry Has Turned Gay


The Hip Hop industry has turned gay, nothing against the gays; but why be gay on the down low and try to hide your sexuality with money, swagger, clothes and hoes when you could and should JUST BE YOURSELF. Please let me know how you feel about this topic and which entertainers you feel need to stop playing with us and themselves. (Gaydar Alert-Gaydar-Alert)



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8 Reasons Black Men Date Outside their Race

"I am married to a Black man—dark-skinned, 100 percent cocoa. To me, there is nothing more physically beautiful on this earth. Notice I said physically. Outside of that, there are plenty of more financially, intellectually and emotionally stable options. It’s time to taste the unknown. There are just too many—too many bright and beautiful single Black women waiting for their Black prince charming, only to see more and more of them riding off with their porcelain-skinned beauties. My question is what are you waiting for—a baby and no ring? Black men are obviously seeing a lot in others they like. As an open-minded woman, I can tell you from experience some things about white are right. In no particular order, here are the reasons you should be giving vanilla a chance." (http://www.madamenoire.com/)

According to LaShaun Williams there are 8 reasons a black woman should date a white man. Go to madamenoire.com to read the full article. I discussed my distaste of the article with a fellow colleague and he came up with 8 reasons why black men date outside their race. Let me know what you all think about it.


Top Reasons Black Men Consider Dating outside their race:

1. Black women have a BWA (Black Woman Attitude)

Many grow up with some type of conflict in the household and learn that

Being confrontational, abrasive and aggressive is the way to solve all problems



2. Black women tend to be controlling.

Where you at? Who you with? Where you going? What you doing?

(Naw, you shouldn’t be doing xyz)



3. Black women also tend to think (more so then others) that they don’t need no man for anything. This mentality tends to show itself through their conversations and their actions. (Very counterproductive)



4. Black women don’t know how to make a Man feel like a Man. ( Cater to his wants & needs, and let him lead his family)



5. Black women have no boundaries when it comes to arguments. (Will call a man names like punk, bitch, talk about your mother, etc.)



6. Black women have too many expectations. (Expect everything)-(He broke, He Bald, He unemployed, He drive a Yugo)



7. Black women have entitlement issues. They feel that they are entitled to tear up your things or spend your money if they feel betrayed. (Not humble)



8. Too many baby daddies’. (Just Kidding :)....Not really :))

Random Foolishness at Work

People call my job all day with foolishness! I work in a career center where I help people find employment and people call all day long asking stupid questions like I'm omniscient.  And my co-workers....help them Lord.

From the customers:

1. My best friend was in a car accident and died. He didn't have any family and I was wondering if you can tell me where his funeral will be held, since I have no one to contact to ask.
2. I got three unempployment checks in the mail. I cashed one and I have the other two here in my pocket. When I called unemployment they said that their records show that I cashed only one check....can you tell me why their records dont show that I cashed the other two checks I recieved?
3. I was calling to sign up for a GED class.

From my co-workers:

1. My son is a southmore in high school.
2. My co-worker and I were discussing the explosion in San Bruno and he said that he couldn't phantom the devastation. He cant phantom what those families are going through. I said, yeah I can't fathom that either. He looked at me like I was crazy, like I said the wrong word. (this is the same person that has a son thats a southmore in high school!)
3. I received a phone call from a co-worker at a different site. She asked me how to send an email. Then she asked me how to save a document to her desktop.
4. There is this new old man at work. When I say old man, this man is probably like 70 years old, creeping towards 80.
   
   Old Man: “You know, Richard, I take a lot of medicine as I get older. For my diabetes and such…but you know what I don’t need.”
   
   Richard: “What’s that, man? You know we’re all getting older and I have to take medicine now too. It’s not like it used to be..”
   
   Old Man: “Well, what I don’t need, young man is Viagra. I got no problems there…it’s in my genes.”
   
   I just about fell out and threw up all at the same time. Ugh!